Success Road

Whenever you are working on developing habits into your life, it’s easy to try to do it all on your own. Especially when you have tried to do it before and failed. You feel a sense of shame because of that failure, so you do it alone for two reasons:

  1. You don’t want others to see you fail again
  2. If you succeed, then you’ll be able to show off that you can do it

The problem with trying to establish new habits on your own is that it’s easier to fail.

Yes, there are some people who have a higher level of self-control and discipline, but we all come across weak points and temptations. Or maybe it’s not a matter of will power and just a matter of trying to remember to do something that you haven’t done before.

First of all, I want to state that we ought to rely on God to help us establish new and better habits into our lives. He’s the One that ultimately gives us the ability to accomplish what we do.

But it’s also wise and helpful to build accountability into our lives.

Let me share some ways that I’m building accountability into my life, and, hopefully, that will give you ideas of what you can do.

I’ve been sharing some things about my personal health, and I’ll use this as an example.

  1. Working with my doctor
    1. Family
    2. Mastermind
  2. Ask people to check on your progress
  3. Tracking my progress
    1. At Risk and Overweight Podcast
    2. Facebook group
  4. Sharing my progress online
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Category:Self-help -- posted at: 6:37am CST

We’ve all read different self-help or productivity books, and there are many that talk about a narrow section of a particular topic. I mentioned this as I started this season, and I’m interested in exploring what it could look like to take several of these books and start to put the concepts together to get a more broad view of the topic.

Now, there are many reviews and summaries available that cover the topics, but I’d like to start exploring how these different books intersect - how they fit together, like a puzzle.

I haven’t really started delving into this yet, but I’d like to share how I hope to approach this, and then probably start rolling through this over the upcoming months.

Here are some of the books I have in mind (and a little about each one):

  • The One Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan
    • What is the one thing I can do such that doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary?
  • Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown
    • Less but better.
  • Procrastinate on Purpose: 5 Permissions to Multiply Your Time by Rory Vaden
  • The Power of Habit: Why We Do what We Do in LIfe and Business by Charles DuHigg
    • How habits work (the habit loop) and how to create new habits
  • Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life by Nir Eyal
    • Opposite of distraction is traction (this blew my mind - I thought it was focus)
  • Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World by Cal Newport
    • Develop deep work routines to drastically improve your focus while working
  • Grit:  The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth
    • Grit is about stamina, not intensity
    • Passion is not quite what I thought it was
    • I participated in a 2-month book club on this book
  • Time Management Magic: How to Get More Done Every Day and More from Surviving to Thriving by Lee Cockerell
    • Haven’t listened yet, but I have listened to Lee Cockerell’s podcast and have heard many of the principles he has in the book.
    • Lessons he’s learned and fine-tuned while working as a VP at Disney World as well as in other management positions in the hotel industry
  • Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity by David Allen
    • Get everything out of your head and on paper
    • “Being creative, strategic, and simple present and loving don’t require time - they require space.”

There are probably many other books or resources I could include in this, but these 9 were readily available on my Audible account.

As you can see, they all relate to time management and productivity in some way, but all from different angles and perspectives.

I don’t have a solid plan on how I’m going to tackle this project or how I’m going to share results with you when I do, but I want to at least take the first step and introduce this to you. I also don’t know what it’ll look like when it’s done, but that doesn’t really matter right now.

Maybe you would even be interested in working with me on this - maybe like a virtual book club or something. If so, send me an email: jr@joshuarivers.net, and let me know that you’re interested in this. If I get enough people interested, we’ll get something started.

Also, let me know if there are any other books you think I should add to this list.

I’m going to have links to each of these books in the show notes, in case you want to check them out.

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Category:Self-help -- posted at: 9:51am CST

We all operate at lot based on our habits - those things we do with little-to-no thinking.

The problem is that we have many habits that don't support good health.

Formerly a software executive, life and weight-loss coach Elizabeth Sherman joins us on the podcast to share how to build healthy habits into your life.

Elizabeth traveled a lot. Her mother’s breast cancer really took a toll on Elizabeth. Her death spurred her to research how to live her healthiest life. Ultimately, she wanted to find out how to prevent breast cancer. In her research, she found that being overweight contributed in a significant way, not just for cancer, but for a variety of serious health problems.                                                                        

Going through something of a midlife crisis, she was laid off. Her therapist recommended becoming a life coach. She developed a plan for understanding habit forming. First, it was knowledge. Know what you need to do. Second, habits. Create habits that will contribute to the healthy goals you have. Accomplishing her half-marathon goal allowed her to finally see herself as an athlete.

Elizabeth explains the five-band triangle for habits:

  • Environment
  • Creating Habits
  • Skills
  • Beliefs and Values
  • Your Identity

The top band is the environment. You want to “peg” a new habit to something that you’re already doing. She gives an example of physically putting your floss next to your toothbrush if you want to start a new habit of flossing.

The second band is creating habits that then support that environment. Meal planning is an example of this.

The third band are the skills you need to execute those habits. Cooking is one example because cooking skills can support your healthy eating habits.

The bottom band is your identity. Once you identify as a certain kind of person, your identity can inform beliefs and values (the fourth band). All of these support the skills, the habits, and environment.

Elizabeth discusses how to change your negative thoughts into positive thoughts. You have to believe in your own self-worth to start to commit to positive actions.

Episode Topics:

  • Elizabeth shares a story about her mother.
  • Being a vegetarian was all she knew toward eating better.
  • How Elizabeth’s view of habit development has changed.
  • Elizabeth completes a half-marathon and she begins to identify as an athlete.
  • “Pegging” new habits to old ones.
  • Why do some of us pick up some habits more easily?
  • Considering your identity can drive all the change.
  • Uncovering limiting beliefs.
  • It’s easier to examine your family’s belief than your own.

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Category:Self-help -- posted at: 7:30am CST

As we explore many areas relating to self-development and self-care, the topics I’m trying to focus most on relate to building habits, productivity, and health. While there is some strategy involved, these are things that can be more related to tactics - specific things to do or not do. There are other things that are more like glue, holding everything together. One of those things is music.

A lot of people listen to and enjoy music, but the truth is that most people don’t really think about how the music is affecting them. So, today, I have Bill Protzman here today to talk about music, specifically in relation to self-care and self-development.

Bill opens by saying that going without music is like going without food. He speaks about feeling suicidal, and how listening to music uncovered wells of emotion.

Bill talks about how many music therapists are formally trained in the nature of the therapeutic relationship. In “vocal psychotherapy,” a therapist helps you unlock things through playing musical instruments and singing. Music care, on the other hand, is self-care using music. And music can be used intuitively to accomplish whatever goal you want. He also talks about the different ways people actually use music, and how those uses actually benefit us. For example, listening to songs about gratitude can actually draw up gratitude in you, which is ultimately a net positive, a reward.

Bill has worked a great deal with the homeless and encourages people to reach out to their local organizations to seek information about how to engage and help the homeless.

           

We also talk about:

  • Why is music important?
  • What’s the difference between music therapy and music care?
  • Music can animate genuine emotion in us.
  • Music also brings you into physical “alignment” with your emotions.
  • The spiritual rewards of allowing music to animate emotions.
  • We understand the power of voices, and we need them.
  • Bill’s books—moral injury and best spiritual practices.

Key quotes:

  • “The sounds around us are a fundamental part of who we are.”
  • “Being isolated from all sound? That would be like starvation.”
  • “Change your awareness, change your life.”
  • “Who wouldn’t want to be appreciated by someone with an elevated consciousness?”
  • “It’s not the person we know, it’s the vibration.”
  • “[The homeless] are facing humanity in the same way that we are.”

 

Connect with Bill Protzmann on his website at www.quest.musiccare.net

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Category:Self-help -- posted at: 7:24am CST

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