Success Road

Why you need to identify your skills and strengths

  • Everyone, especially someone trying to start a business, should know what they can and cannot do.
  • Equally, you should know what you enjoy doing and what you don’t.

How to identify these and take action

  • Start by making a simple list:
    • Make a list of what you can and cannot do.
    • After you’re done with that, mark the ones in both lists that you enjoy doing.
    • This will leave you with with four categories of skills:
      • Skills you have and enjoy
      • Skills you don’t have but enjoy
      • Skills you have but don’t enjoy
      • Skills you don’t have and don’t enjoy
  • You could also create this in a matrix similar to the Time Management Matrix promoted by Stephen Covey.
  • After identifying your skills and pinpointing the target quadrant (skills you have and enjoy), these will become the target you work toward working with as much as possible.
  • Working in your strengths is where you’ll be able to grow the best.
  • Try to find ways to eliminate (if possible) or delegate (if needed) the skills that you are either not good at or don’t enjoy.
  • There may be some things, especially at first, that you’ll need to do that aren’t ideal, but continually work to work more in your skills and strengths.

Helpful resources

Direct download: sr304.mp3
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Why is saying “no” so hard?

  • Some of us are people-pleasers, so we like saying “yes” to people.
  • It makes us feel better when we help others (dopamine).
  • We feel like we need a “small distraction.”
  • We want to have some fun in our lives.

Saying “yes”

  • When you say “yes” to something, you are automatically saying “no” to something else.
  • Conversely, when you say “no” to something, it allows you to say “yes” to something else – hopefully to the right thing.
  • Saying “no” takes discipline – as we already talked about, it’s not easy.

What to say “no” to

  • Social media
  • Email
  • Amazon
  • Overtime
  • Friends and family
  • Education

What to say “yes” to

  • Be purposeful, not entrepreneurial.
  • Ask yourself, “What is the One Thing I can do that will make everything else easier or unnecessary?”
  • Don’t burn yourself out – take time for personal care

Helpful resources

Do you have something to say?

  • If you have a question or comment, I’d love to hear it! You can contact via the website ( or call 405-771-0567.
  • You can also leave a comment on the show notes on the website, on social media, or by leaving a rating and review on your podcast player. These not only give me feedback, but can help the community as well.
  • I’m thinking about starting a Facebook group that can serve as a way to help you create and keep the right mindset. It’ll be like an informal mastermind group where you can ask and answer questions as well as share the progress of your side biz. If you’d be interested in this, please let me know. I don’t want to create a ghost town, so I want to know that there is interest in this.
Direct download: sr303.mp3
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